If a learner has a number of specific serious learning issues, professional
educational specialists may speculate that it might require approximately eight to
fourteen months to remediate the situation. Logically, the fewer the learning problems,
the quicker the remediation. However, no one can predict with certainty that these
academic and/or personal issues will be history by a certain date.
Achievement requires focused effort. Few youngsters are voluntarily willing to make
this effort when they feel parents do not expect it from them. Without healthy parental
values, affirmation, support and encouragement, most struggling youngsters simply give
up. Parents who fail to acknowledge these efforts on the part of the child because of
their own unrealistic expectations should not be surprised when their child fails to
develop self-confidence.
It is psychically dangerous for a child to achieve goals, especially lofty ones,
exclusively to please his/her parents. Over time, the child may become so other-directed that
s/he may fail to develop a well-formulated sense of her/his own identity. Such a child is at
risk of becoming disillusioned as an adult. One day, s/he may discover that the goals the
learner had always assumed were her/his own are really someone else's goals. This realization
may be devastating and may well require extensive therapy to deal with and to finally overcome.
The intense bitterness towards the parent(s) and the possible serious misunderstanding of
the parents' good intentions which may ensue are avoidable. Nothing and no one should ever
be allowed to come between you and your child--not even you and your worthy career dreams
for your youngster.